Pei-shan Ho

You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be adored. You deserve to be held so tightly that, for once, you don't have to be strong. You deserve all the love in the world. Not for what you've done. Not for what you've given. But simply because you are. Your hands deserve to be kissed, for they have fed hungry little mouths, wiped away tears, and held tiny sleeping beauties through the dark. Your eyes deserve to be gazed into with wonder, for their loving gaze taught little one's

We talk a lot about co-regulating our children. Name the feeling. Offer reassurance. And stay calm. Then we grow up, answer a call from our parents, and receive waves of emotions and worries before we even get to say hello. Your father’s health. Your sister’s marriage. The neighbor's dog barking in the evening. And your future, which apparently worries them more than it worries you. You pick up the phone as their child and hang up as head of the family’s Crisis Management Dep