Pei-shan Ho

You're thoughtful. Reliable. Easy to get along with. Everyone says you're such a lovely person. Wonderful. But when was the last time someone asked what you wanted? More importantly, when was the last time you knew the answer? People pleasing is a pattern of putting other people's needs, feelings and approval ahead of your own, often at the expense of your wellbeing. Sometimes, it develops as a way to maintain connection, avoid conflict or feel safe in relationships. Often, y

Have you ever walked on eggshells around the people you love? Have you ever wondered whether they would still love you if they truly knew you? Have you ever wanted to be yourself, but feared that one honest conversation might turn the dinner into a family court hearing? Welcome to conditional love. Where belonging is free, provided you follow the terms and conditions. Unfortunately, nobody gave you a copy of the contract. People Pleasing: The Family's Favourite One Growing up